how to stop comparing yourself to other people
u were doing ok until u opened the app 📱 then suddenly everyone is engaged, promoted, glowing, and in italy. it's not u being jealous — ur literally being shown the best 4 seconds of 800 ppl's lives in a row.
comparison hurts so bad rn bc the feed is rigged. u see everyone's highlight reel and ur own behind-the-scenes at the same time. of course u come out feeling behind. it's not a personal failing, it's the math of being a person w wifi in 2026. ur brain literally evolved to compare urself to like,, 60 ppl in ur village. now it's doing that for 600 strangers before breakfast.
"stop comparing" isn't really the move bc u can't willpower a brain into not noticing. what actually helps is changing what ur brain has to compare TO. unfollow the ones that consistently leave u feeling small (even if u love them irl). mute, don't always explain. and when u catch the spiral, swap "she's ahead of me" for "we're not running the same race" — bc fr u aren't, u never were.
also: u only compare urself to ppl ur brain thinks u should be like. that means underneath the awful feeling is actually a clue about what u want. don't bully urself for the comparison — listen to it for a sec, then close the app for 20 mins. that's the whole prescription tn.
— mira